Change

Like nature – we shift, we morph, we change into whatever shape the wind and water forms us into. Molding us, transforming us, purifying us. A consistent flow and cycle of change and adaptation. Every curve, every inch. Everything touched, nothing left undone.

The only consistent thing in this world is that everything changes.

I am unable to imagine a more pristine time than right now, with everything going on in the world, for us to be able to redesign, recreate, adjust, and tweak the world, our ideals, and the way we go about our day to day life. The rug underneath all of our feet has been moved, and we are seeing all the dust, dirt, unfinished business, old bad habits, and harmful things we either intentionally put under the rug, or did so not realizing.

So many layers and levels across all platforms that need to be addressed and shifted so we can move forward into a new and better version.

I see it happening. All around me. I see the right questions being asked leading to the right answers. I see people taking action where action needs to be taken. I see people learning and evolving and wanting to step up and be a better version, their best version. So many learning curves. So much adaptation its quiet beautiful when we are able to step back and look from a birds eye view.

We are all on different levels. Moving through whichever area of our life is currently presenting itself in front us and learning how to navigate in new ways to produce new and desired solutions.

A massive upheaval which I do truly believe we will all be able to look back on and see just how much incredibly positive change occurred amongst the chaos.

When we choose to see the beauty within a disaster, it is the beauty we end up seeing.

For help shifting out of habits that may longer being working check out what I offer as a Wellness Coach, and get in touch so you can begin to see the change you are desiring.

Overcoming Addictive Habits

Changing Habits – Shifting Perspectives

How do we do that?

Addiction can actually encompass way more than what we may think. Most of us are familiar with the addictions to drugs, alcohol, and caffeine. But what about other things?

First – what is addiction?

You can look it up on Google, but the definition I found used the word addiction in the description . . . haha . . so . . .

Here’s my definition:

Anything we do repeatedly either on a daily basis or regular basis in a semi unconscious mindset, therefore making it unhealthy for us. Something we habitually do that may not actually be serving us for the better and may be keeping us stuck in some form or another. Where we don’t have a full understanding of why we are doing it and there is that underlined reason not fully at the surface yet.

Here are some examples outside of the typical ones:

  • snacking
  • over exercising
  • too much of even a healthy food
  • our cell phones
  • certain relationships
  • negative thought patterns ( this is a big one. Self sabotaging mind chatter. Every person deals with this )

In essence, anything we feel we have to do to find relief in some sort of way. ( finding relief in and of itself is not bad and can be a very healthy way of moving through a difficult time, but lets make sure what we end up doing to find that relief is through something that benefits us in the long term )

If we are having to ‘do something’ to feel good, something might be off.

So how do we break the habitual pattern if we feel we might have one, or maybe a few?

Well we all know about the cold turkey method. But who wants to hear a child scream when you rip the lollipop from their fingers . . . not me. That creates more issues.

So lets try this instead:

It might sound counter intuitive at first, but hear me out, cause it works. And can work very fast.

Don’t worry about stopping your pattern just yet ( unless it is immediately threatening your life, then seek further guidance ). Be aware of when you’re doing it and then begin to find something else similar, yet better, to take its spot. So when you see yourself go to grab or do your pattern, switch it out for this new thing.

Add in to crowd out

For instance, I really like peanut butter. There’s nothing wrong with it. Its healthy. Full of healthy fats. However, I came to a point where I was using it like a box of cookies and out of almost complete unawareness. It became that Oreo I’d go grab when I was feeling low or so focused on something else that all the sudden I was in the kitchen scooping some up. I would scoop out a huge chunk of peanut butter from the jar ( it was even homemade most of the time ), and then add coconut syrup, coconut sugar, and some cacao nibs. So again, nothing unhealthy here, but the way I was treating it was. And I would do it multiple times a day.

There are many layers to why we do what it is we do. But to gently transition myself out of an unhealthy pattern, I started by replacing the peanut butter with coconut cream.

A healthy fat and just as delicious, but with the extra goodness of its incredible health benefits; but enough of a shift to bring even more awareness to the cycle and give me momentum to continue in the same direction.

It’s not the food, person, or thing that is necessarily bad . . . Its the intention behind the act that we want to focus on and make sure is pure.

We don’t always have to completely eliminate it either. Now, if your habit is very detrimental to your health and has no positive aspects to it, then yes, start creating these gentle shifts with an end goal of completely removing it.

However, if it is not something all that bad in itself, then it’s not about eliminating it all together. Instead, its about shifting the intention, the reason behind why it is you are doing what you’re doing, to make sure the act isn’t actually covering up a deeper reason you might be avoiding looking at.

Bringing awareness to these areas, and breaking these cycles, allows for stress and worry to fall away. It makes space, and opens up time, for new and better things to take place that bring about more joy and love into your life.


Breaking addictive cycles can be hard, and take a lot of time, patience, and strength.

If you feel you have a pattern that needs to be broken, or maybe you have been trying already to break a pattern, but haven’t been able to fully follow through yet, sometimes we need some guidance, accountability, and support to get us through.

If this is something you are looking for contact me below, or read about the Wellness Coaching I offer here:

16 Benefits of Meditation

To start – What is Meditation and how do we do it?

A lot of us actually already do it. We just didn’t bother giving it a name, because it was just something that happened ( like breathing or our heart beating. It just happens without effort or very little )

Meditation is simply being conscious and aware of our thoughts and letting them pass through our mind like clouds in the sky without any attachment to them.

At some points this is easy. At other times our minds are filled with so much noise that momentum is impossible to stop until we physically remove ourselves from any outward chaos and spend some time alone in nature. ( at least that’s what I do )

The Goal of Meditation

To return ourselves back to a state of presence. To be back fully in the present moment.

A lot of the time our thoughts are anchored in the past or future. But in reality, all there ever is, is the now. The present moment.

If you are completely new to this concept and have yet to feel you have control over your thoughts – the best way to begin is by simply noticing that we are breathing. Notice the air going through your nose on an inhale, your lungs and belly expanding outward, feel free to hold your breathe in for a second or two if that feels good, and then notice the warmer air passing through your nose on the exhale and your belly softening as the air is moved out of your body.

A lot of us breathe into our chests/rib cage. This is fine, but it actually puts strain on our shoulders and neck. If you notice this is how youre breathing, play around with expanding your belly out on the inhale, instead of your chest.

Sit tall with a straight spine as much as possible.

The goal here is to shift the focus. Instead of being stuck in our head with our thoughts, we put our focus and attention on a different part of our body.

We are separate from our thoughts. So when you notice a thought arise in your mind, simply acknowledge it, and then allow your mind to move on to either the next thought or maybe a space of stillness.

There really isn’t a right or wrong way to do this. At first it might seem incredibly difficult, especially later in the day. Our minds are full of information, conversations, words, ideas, problems etc.

I find it easier first thing in the morning when my mind is still relatively clear, or if I wake with a racing mind, getting myself outside into nature away from traffic, people, and all responsibilities before I do anything else.

Starting the day with a clear mind, and a feeling of control and awareness of our thoughts makes for an easier, more grounded, peaceful, and more enjoyable day.

Its when we feel a lack of control of our thoughts that we feel a lack of control over everything else in our reality.

So simply tuning in for even just a few minutes and feeling present and in your body first thing, makes a world of difference.

SOme of the benefits of meditation
  • dramatically improve mental health
  • dramatically improve emotional well-being
  • increases presence, focus, and memory
  • improves relationships
  • improves authentic productivity
May Help With:
  • Allergies
  • Anxiety
  • Asthma
  • Binge Eating
  • Depression
  • Fatigue
  • Heart Disease
  • High Blood Pressure
  • Chronic Pain
  • Sleep problems
  • Substance abuse

If your mind is running like crazy and sitting in silence feels overwhelming or makes you anxious there are many guided meditation apps and podcasts you can find online or yoga studios that offer meditation classes.

Namaste

What is Breakaway Movement?

It is a Community.

Like a town, or city. But online.

Allowing us to be anywhere in the world, yet still connected. All living the version of life that brings each of us the most joy. And when we find ourselves in a new corner of the world, whether physically, or mentally, we are connected and have an incredible support system to turn to.

Its a space filled with like minded individuals. Passionate about life, but not just living . . . FULL ON THRIVING. Living out every dream, every desire, and supporting each other along the way. Weekly Zoom Calls to connect, and share. Anything from a new book we are reading to guest speakers who teach and inspire. Healers, Helpers, Energy Workers, Yoga Practices, Breath Work Sessions, Education on Nutrition and everything else in between. Events, Retreats and get togethers. We all bring our own talents and knowledge into a beautiful space for others to learn from. All calls are recorded if we are out busy living so we can check back in when we have time.

Most of us work online with a company called Enagic drinking Kangen Water, so the knowledge base behind how to earn an income online is extensive. Many of us are looking for new ways of earning an income, or simply another income stream. This is a beautiful space to learn from others if that is an avenue you want to learn more about, but the community itself offers a wide variety of incredible things even beyond being an online entrepreneur .

We are a soul family.

Forever learning, growing, expanding, and transforming.

Adding new members to the tribe daily with wide open arms.

It’s place where we can learn and grow, as well as be the one to teach and guide. You can be as active as you want, or take it in strides. The content, the people, the knowledge and guidance is forever there, its immense and abundant in so many ways.

A space for those who dream a little bigger, laugh a little louder, love a little harder, and play a little longer.

Welcoming anyone and everyone else who desires to do the same.

and Let Me Know when you do – I would love to show you around.

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Present and Aware

How much time in the day do you spend on your phone?

Are you on it right now? 

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Working from my laptop and phone means I spend a good amount of time in front of a screen myself . . . but I had a funny little thought the other day that helped me out since I love what I do.

Treat your phone like a C h o c o l a t e B a r! haha yeah!

It’s good to have a little, but don’t over do it. And if you’re gunna go for it, DO IT . . . it’s all good . . . but forgo the next day. ( <– that parts important guys , self discipline )

When was the last time you really looked at a tree and watched a gentle wind move the leaves in every direction?

Did you hear the birds nearby?

Did you feel the slight breeze on your cheek?


 When was the last time you heard silence? Silence of your surroundings, but also silence of your own mind. 


Words on a page are simply words – until we D e c i d e to let them bring about A c t i o n. 



Nature has such a brilliant way of bringing back that silence. That place of calm and peace where we feel comforted by the beauty all around us. 

Find your silence – your presence today.

Whether it’s for 5 minutes, an hour, or even just a split second. If its been awhile since you’ve felt completely present in the moment that split second can be life changing.

A split second today, can turn into a minute the next, and 5 minutes the day after. 

Our minds follow what we tell them to do. Retraining them to be present in every moment leaves us feeling satisfied and less jumbled, less forgetful, less stressed and tense, and more able to relax and enjoy the world around us.

More present to make good decisions. A feeling of being grounded and stable instead of wired and chaotic. 

I choose to follow the example nature gives me. I am apart of nature just as much as it is apart of me. The more I relax into the moment and feel present and aware of all my surroundings the more joyful and full of life I become. 

And you can too.

Let your goal today to be to find your p r e s e n c e.

your silence . your time . your space .  

you deserve it

Are you Awake?

“Once we see the light, we can’t unsee it.

What once made sense no longer does.

Seeing new things will always require change, as the lessons seek to shift into our bones.

Many of us avoid the unfamiliar because we doubt we can hold it. We’ve been told for so long that we need a guidebook to tell us what to see. The American dream promises fulfillment while pouring concrete into our legs assuring that we feel as if we can’t stand anywhere but where they say.

We can pretend to build a happy home within the safety of the known, but it’s a facade. There is no promised safety. Just flow or resistance.

We either surrender to the present or we create anxiety, depression, and apathy.

Experiences deliver these lessons like a wheelbarrow of compost, delivering ingredients essential for growth. We can refuse to absorb it, but in doing so we choose a piece of life over the entirety.

We’ve been conditioned to feel weak, but our arms can hold more than we know. If it has arrived on our doorstep it is ours to meet, digest, wrestle with, consume, and then spit out what we no longer need.

Wherever you are, whatever you are doing, I hope that you take a moment to breathe in, soften your heart, remind yourself that you are capable, and lean into your lessons.

In each moment it is yours to choose:

Resistance or Flow”

Written by

Aubrey Renee

@aubreyyrenee

https://www.restoreretreatkentucky.com/


There is a tremendous amount of truth,

in and beyond these words.

Thank you Aubrey, for sharing such a beautiful part of your soul.

The journey you are on feels very similar to my own.

May our words reach many and continue to spread the message we both feel a calling to share.

We are here for the creative journey of experiencing joy and continuously expanding our minds into deeper levels of bliss.

If you are here reading this, your journey has begun.

Step into Growth

And know you will be supported every step of the way.

 

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If you would like to continue diving deeper into this question – ” Are you awake”  here is a podcast that goes into more detail describing some of the things that occur along this process of awakening. 

Podcast: Love Sex & Magic – Melissa Wells – Sept 16 – Are you Waking Up?

 

Lifes Guidance System

Resistance. Stress. Anxiety. Struggle. Anger. Sorrow. Frustration. Hurt. Worry.

These are our signs to stop – and pay attention.

Just like the stop signs we see every day while driving…. it, along with these emotions, are there for our protection.

They come from our intuition. That gut feeling we get, but usually don’t follow. Our intuition guides us to the path with least resistance. Aka…less struggle, more flow and joy.

So, I encourage you the next time you are trying to do something and for whatever reason it is just not happening at all and it is an incredible struggle to do what it is you are wanting to do…see it as your sign, and stop. Completely stop and either go do something else…or just sit. And wait. And watch.

Watch your mind go from crazy to more relaxed.

And watch the solution present itself. Sometimes right away. Sometimes later in the day or the following day.

Resistance of what is creates more resistance. The more we try and force something…the farther away we push it. Let go, and let it be. Even forget about it for awhile. This allows the energy from yourself and whatever it is you’re trying to do flow freely again and the solution will be able to fix itself with utter ease.

I feel we all kind of really wish there was an easy button for life or a written out step by step guide on how to live an incredibly fulfilled joyful life.

Well….there kind of is.

It’s our intuition.

It literally guides us moment by moment. Letting us know if we are going in the wrong direction or if what we are doing is aligned.

The only problem is we have gotten really good at ignoring it and instead, doing what we think we should be doing or what society tells us to do.

We’ve become stuck on ‘thinking’ instead of feeling.

Thinking usually leads us in the opposite direction. Feeling tells us exactly what we need to live joyously.

But wait!…it’s too vulnerable and feminine to feel.

No.

That’s society and your ‘thinking mind’ talking. It is actually extremely powerful to be able to understand the connection between feeling and doing. And those times you come across someone who has figured this completely out, they are actually kind of intimidating. Not in a threatened way, but in a wow, they seem to have a really good grasp on this living thing.

One day….this will be taught in schools. Maybe it does in some already.

I know statistics and complex chemical equations come into play in the lives of many…but understanding the basic foundation of how to live in the bodies we are in…and in a way that helps us thrive and live out life the best way possible….I feel that should come first.

Understanding we have a built in guide that lets us know the direction of most joy, most peace, most ease….man, I wish I would have known that earlier!

– Struggle becomes almost non-existent. ( Almost because everything has an opposite. We can’t have peace without chaos)

– Joy and ease of living become the normal way of being. Not just an occasional awesome day or anticipation build up for a vacation.

We have forgotten the importance of listening to our intuition. It’s been put on the back burner.

Let’s remember what it feels like to follow it. To follow the joy.

The joy that this life is really all about.