Surrender – Release – Let Go

Surrender into the feeling that everything happens just as it is supposed to. 

Walk tall into the moments of pain, hurt, and uncertainty. 
See them as perfect lessons, perfect stepping stones to get you where you want to go.


A common theme in my life the past couple weeks has been to surrender into these moments. To become less rigid and tense and trust the process.

It came up in a yoga class.

For those of you familiar with yoga – holding a position for a long period of time can bring about some serious mind chatter . . . ‘how much longer do I have to hold this, this hurts, I can’t do this.’ Well, this is one way to experience it. However, when you surrender into the moment instead, into the stretch and uncomfortable feeling you’ll find a state of pure bliss. 

Not just in yoga though. Anywhere. 

When something is uncomfortable or unfamiliar, surrender into that feeling and see it as a blessing. 
When I say surrender, for me that looks like and feels like an expansion of my mind. I am opening it up and allowing for a new something to take its place. ( for new space to be created, a new pathway to form ) 


It brings a whole different perspective to struggle and pain. 

And a whole new form of gratitude and peace. 

Instead of seeing these moments as unwanted, painful, or steps back, they could actually be the perfect preparation for a giant leap forward if we allow them to be – by simply surrendering. 
I do think it is also important to keep your well-earned and sturdy roots in place during this process as well. It is not always about letting go of everything you know. We got this far for a reason and we’ve been through enough lessons to know what we want to stand for and what we value.  Be open to other opinions about your sturdy roots, you never know you might need to upgrade them yourself at some point, but remember why you grew them in the first place as well.
Accept What Is   –  Let Go of What Was  –  Be Open to What is Coming Next.

Emergence

As I walk into this new chapter of my life I am scared shitless.

Scared of what I will have to reopen and face, as well as scared of the immensity of growth and expansion that is going to occur.

The pain, hurt, sorrow, shattered pieces, broken hearts, loss of trust, harsh words, negative emotions, so much that was buried down deep, shoved away, and put aside in the moment for the need to simply survive and keep my head above water.

Well now it all resurfaces to be purged and forever moved out, transformed, and forgotten.

Sitting at the waters edge not wanting peer down for the fear and knowing I haven’t liked my reflection. Is it too soon to look? Have I waited long enough, processed through enough, and shifted enough things for that reflection to be more friendly yet?

As I slowly tip toe my way forward in the direction I know I am meant to be going, the gentle knowing I have yet to fully step forth lingers. And its these gentle whispers that I know are truth.

So what does fully stepping forward look like?

What do I want it to look like?

These are the questions.

Handling Hard Days

Hard Days – We all Have Them.

But our perception of them is what determines whether we call it a hard/bad day or a Day of Growth.

In order to move forward and progress we have to be willing to be completely present and aware in the moments that really count. The moments of struggle, the moments of anger, sorrow, hurt, disappointment etc.

These moments are the tug, the pull, the stretch into something new. These are the signs that what you are after is wanting you, but in order for it to become your reality you have to change your current understanding and view yet another perspective.

What we want, wants us.
In order to get something different, we have to become something different.

Notice yourself the next time you get angry, hurt, or upset. And when you notice this, stop and step back.  Relax into the moment and see it as an opportunity for massive growth.


Examine the root of what triggered your reaction.

These emotions are giant signs that there is an off balance and growth is trying to take place.
This is your chance to aim it in the direction you want it to go.

Decide what it is you are wanting and how it is different from what you are currently getting.

We are not our emotions. We witness our emotions flooding through our bodies. We have the ability to detach from them and watch them run their course and stop and shift them as we choose to further our own development and evolution.

Every tug and pull is a little sign trying to keep you on track.

If you are feeling stuck, drained, uninspired, or unmotivated, see it as a blessing! This is the perfect time to do some serious manifesting. Use this down/negative energy to fuel yourself. This is where you can get serious and determined about what you want. This is where we can really build up our motivational energy and say to ourselves this is not what I want, I want this instead, and then go at it at full force! So much momentum can be gained here.

Action Steps:

The next time you see yourself in a moment of frustration, anger, or lack of motivation, step back mentally in your mind ( sometimes physically taking a step back works really well too ) and stop what you are doing. Bring awareness to what feeling/s you have in your body, work on finding what brought that feeling into being, and then push through/break through/ transcend/ surrender/ leg go/ release it into a better feeling that you are wanting. You’ll feel elevated and like a weight has lifted when you do this.

Find humor in your crazy emotions. Again, we are not our emotions, we are the ones witnessing them. Sometimes our emotions are completely crazy and make no sense. Be willing to laugh and at them. It lightens the moment and dramatically helps you separate your body and headspace from the negative energy that arises from it. A lot of the time we are actually picking up and absorbing the emotions/energies from people around us and the environments we are in.

Be curious about your emotions. Honor them, respect them, and you’ll gain an understanding of them. It will help in your own development and even help you in understanding what others around you are going through and give you the ability to help them with what they are going through as well.

Namaste

Opportunities

BE OPEN

We are bombarded by opportunities left and right every day, and when we are in alignment these opportunities are like a bowl of frozen raspberries with cacao nibs and coconut sugar. aka yummy.

These days, when we ask for something . . . ta da! there’s the opportunity for us to take to give us exactly what we asked for. The more in alignment we are, the more instantaneous this becomes.

Its really insanely wonderful. Once you get the hang of it lol

Its when we don’t take the opportunity that things get sticky and uncomfortable.

There is still work we have to put in to releasing the old to make room for this new awesome . . . but we come to find the ‘work’ is fun! It only becomes hard when we start taking actions in the opposite direction of our desire.

( thank you universe for making me uncomfortable to guide me back in the right direction )

Look for these opportunities. Be open to them. Encourage them and want them in your life. Most of the time they are already there, waiting for us to remember them, but we are too fast-paced and not present in the moment enough to see them. Which is a bummer because these opportunities are exactly what we need to grow and evolve. ( in turn living out our wants and dreams)

I used to use the phrase ‘follow your dreams’ all the time and then realized a couple things – First – what were my dreams? What was it that I was dreaming about every night when my head hit that pillow. Was there a common theme? HECK YES THERE WAS. That was what I needed to follow.

Second – once I started listening and following, I then realized I no longer wanted to follow my dreams. I wanted to LIVE my dreams. To turn them into my reality.

So I ‘gave in’ so to speak. I call this surrendering now, or even better, releasing my grip and letting myself fully feel the present moment. It allowed me to see where I was, release these blocks that had been built up, and open me up to allow opportunities to begin to present themselves.

These opportunities are what gets us to where we are wanting to go.

Which really, at the end of the day – the root of everything we could ever desire is a deeper and deeper feeling of love and bliss. The things and experiences we crave – are what bring about these emotions of love and bliss.

It is important to keep our wants in our minds and bring an awareness around whether or not our actions are actually in alignment with them, but it is just as important to be open and ready to do something different, to take a step in a direction you haven’t gone before, otherwise life will constantly be giving you what you want, while you’re still over there waiting for it. 

In order to get something different – to have something that we have never had – to experience something that we have yet to do – we have to realize that means we have to do something we have yet to do, to get it.

Be open.
Be willing to try new things.

Get out of your comfort zone. Like way out. The more you push the edges of that comfort zone the bigger it gets, which means the next hurtle will be a little bit higher, a little bit scarier, a little bit tougher to throw yourself over.

but that also just means – whats on the other side is that much more amazing.

Realize that what you want, wants you, but you have to be willing to do something you haven’t yet done to receive it.

p.s.

as I write this, it is also a reminder to myself, that I currently have wants waiting for me too.

I am on this journey right along with you .

reprogramming, rewiring our minds, back to a space where everything was once perfectly aligned.

Broccoli Date Beauty Bowl

Our bodies have a built in way to let us know exactly what foods we need….and don’t need for that matter.

Just as a dog, or any other wild animal, we too can instinctively know what foods are good for us in the moment and which ones are not.

It’s about tapping into those subtle signs, understanding what they mean, and then actually listening to them and correctly taking action.

Eating what our body recognizes gives it the ability to preform at it’s highest level. Giving us the energy we long for, soft clear vibrant skin, shiny strong hair, sparkling white eyes, a humming digestive system, and luscious restful sleep.

We tap into this inner knowing by slowing down.

Yeah I know, the opposite of what we want to do. Or think we want to do…

For me, I did this by switching my mindset around meal times. Viewing eating as more of a sacrid spiritual practice that feeds my body and soul, rather than seeing the time I spend eating as not productive and almost a waste of time.

My relationship with food has been on both ends of the spectrum, but now…

I chose to cherish the time I spend eating, as well as the foods I chose to eat, just as much as all the other high priority items in my life.

The foods we eat are important.

But HOW we eat them is just as important.

We are fed much more by the food we eat when we take time to appreciate each bite.

Healing our relationship with food is a beautiful thing.

It doesn’t happen over night. It is a practice and a lot of inner growth can occur as well.

The food off our plates is also vitality important and feeds us just as much.

Healing our relationship with food may mean healing one, or some, of those other areas as well.

A lot of the time we crave certain foods, not because our body actually wants them, but for reasons other than nutritional needs.

We may be craving fulfillment in other areas of our life such as

Relationships
Movement
The work we do
Spirituality

Be patient with yourself.

Set an intention and allow yourself the space to let it unfold.

This is what I am currently eating a lot. With different variations. If this is completely different from how you eat…baby steps. Pick up some dates the next time you’re at the store and try those out. They are little pieces of sweet heaven. Add those in to your next typical salad or just as a snack.

Dramatic changes don’t happen all at once…and we don’t want them to. There’s to much resistance when they do. Baby step your way into it…and it’ll manifest way quicker than if you try tackling it all at once.

Broccoli Date Salad

Red leaf lettuce

Spinach

Arugula

Parsley

Red cabbage

Broccoli florets

Cucumber

Dates

Pecans

DRESSING**:

Avocado Blood Orange Oil ( this stuff is bomb. I received it as a gift last week, it is heaven. Slightly sweet and perfectly rich)

Hemp Oil

Maca powder

Barley Grass Juice Powder

**You don’t have to use this dressing. Something simple like olive oil, lemon juice, and maple syrup is wonderful. A mustard vinaigrette is nice as well. Whatever sounds good to you.

Keep it simple and try to make your own dressing to keep it as whole and unprocessed as possible.

***For those suffering from gut issues and low stomach acids, go ahead and leave out the red cabbage and add everything else. This is a wonderful meal for the gut, makes digestion easy on the stomach, and provides a  lot of nutrition.

Chew thoroughly 🙂

Are you Awake?

“Once we see the light, we can’t unsee it.

What once made sense no longer does.

Seeing new things will always require change, as the lessons seek to shift into our bones.

Many of us avoid the unfamiliar because we doubt we can hold it. We’ve been told for so long that we need a guidebook to tell us what to see. The American dream promises fulfillment while pouring concrete into our legs assuring that we feel as if we can’t stand anywhere but where they say.

We can pretend to build a happy home within the safety of the known, but it’s a facade. There is no promised safety. Just flow or resistance.

We either surrender to the present or we create anxiety, depression, and apathy.

Experiences deliver these lessons like a wheelbarrow of compost, delivering ingredients essential for growth. We can refuse to absorb it, but in doing so we choose a piece of life over the entirety.

We’ve been conditioned to feel weak, but our arms can hold more than we know. If it has arrived on our doorstep it is ours to meet, digest, wrestle with, consume, and then spit out what we no longer need.

Wherever you are, whatever you are doing, I hope that you take a moment to breathe in, soften your heart, remind yourself that you are capable, and lean into your lessons.

In each moment it is yours to choose:

Resistance or Flow”

Written by

Aubrey Renee

@aubreyyrenee

https://www.restoreretreatkentucky.com/


There is a tremendous amount of truth,

in and beyond these words.

Thank you Aubrey, for sharing such a beautiful part of your soul.

The journey you are on feels very similar to my own.

May our words reach many and continue to spread the message we both feel a calling to share.

We are here for the creative journey of experiencing joy and continuously expanding our minds into deeper levels of bliss.

If you are here reading this, your journey has begun.

Step into Growth

And know you will be supported every step of the way.

 

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If you would like to continue diving deeper into this question – ” Are you awake”  here is a podcast that goes into more detail describing some of the things that occur along this process of awakening. 

Podcast: Love Sex & Magic – Melissa Wells – Sept 16 – Are you Waking Up?