Feelin Fearless

I realized this morning upon waking what the theme of this past year has been for me.

Its been all about overcoming all the areas in my life where I was afraid. 

Afraid to reach out. Afraid to try something new. Afraid to chase after a dream. Afraid to invest in myself. Afraid to fully believe in myself. Afraid to take leaps. Afraid to experience life fully. Afraid to fully feel. Afraid of what others might think of me. Afraid to fully surrender. Afraid to ask for help. Afraid to fully step myself out of the norm.

Well without fully realizing it until now… I conquered them all. Well at least a hell of a lot of them. I have accomplished an incredible amount in this past year, and man I should have with the year that I had. Every corner, every conversation, every decision, I was strongly facing some kind of fear I had within me. It was hard.

I guess I first somewhat noticed it when I was ziplining in Costa Rica. I had zero fear. Where in the past the nerves in my stomach would have made me so uncomfortable and sick. My anxiety would have been through the roof.  But not only was that not present I was giddy about it. I was the first one getting hooked up to that line and practically throwing myself off the ledge. Laughing when the guides joked about me not being hooked up correctly after I had already taken off. Arms out wide, gaze going in all directions. Dropping head first down the rope drops…whatever they are called…and having a fucking blast.

There was resistance though. I will say that. I didn’t go head first on my first drop, the guides had to help me break through that barrier.  And I never did go upside down on one of the zip lines. I still wanted to be able to reach back up with my hand and hold on. But it wasn’t from a place of fear though…I came to realize it was just because I had never done it, nor had I seen someone in person do it yet, so I didn’t know how. I didn’t know what it would look like. That is what stopped me. But I’m working on dropping that hesitation as well where I think I have to see someone else do it first in order for me to. Its not accurate, its just the way my mind has been trained to think. Another limitation I’m ecstatic to break through.

All in all I just keep coming back to the same conclusion, that the emotions of fear, worry, and doubt are not necessary. But we can use them and see them as indicators that we have reached a wall/block/hesitation and that once we push through it, there is some serious awesomeness waiting on the other side.

So my little wise words for the day . . . That I’m going to continue repeating for myself as well …

Don’t doubt yourself.

Let go of worry. We don’t need it.

And push through fear, that Hazelnut Hu Chocolate Bar is waiting on the other side 😉 and there just might be a raspberry one too ?? 😀

Love you all.

May this coming year be a fearless one.

Intuition and Curiosity

What makes you nervous?

Is there something you’ve been wanting to do, but for some reason haven’t yet?

Maybe it’s that weird local grocery store you drive by everyday that you kind of want to check out, or that e-book online that you keep coming across that really isn’t that expensive and you want it, but you haven’t purchased it yet for who knows what reason.

Curiosity.

Its really cool. But it sucks if we don’t explore it because we leave ourselves wondering what if?

Curiosity is our intuition coming through.

So what’s something you’ve been wanting to do that you haven’t yet?

What’s holding you back?

Most likely an irrational fear. Fear gets in the way of everything and stops us from living a truly empowered, vibrant life.

Here’s what I have learned – Kick fear to the curb and go do what looks intriguing to you. These moments of curiosity are when our intuition and soul comes forth and says hey! go this direction!

This is also the perfect time to align our actions from an intention of love and joy instead of fear. Anything done from a state of fear draws us farther away from our intuition or natural state of being, which is to feel love and joy with everything we do.

To see just how true we can be to ourselves. How true we will stick to our intuition and listen to it.

Cause when we don’t, life will just give us a little kick on the behind and say nope! I told you what to do, you didn’t listen, here you go, here’s another opportunity. This time a little more forceful. Try again.

Lets make life easier on ourselves. We all know it is hard enough as it is anyway right.

Lets listen to that gut feeling. Lets follow that idea that makes us smile even if we think we will be judged for it. Lets take a nap when we know we need to and listen to our bodies instead of thinking that powering through is what will make others think we are strong. Strong is being able to surrender, be vulnerable, let go, and listen to ourselves and do what is best for us first, and always.

We can’t give from an empty cup.

And when our cup is empty, remember to allow others to fills yours back up if theirs is overflowing.

And then of course, always return the favor.

Vulnerability

It’s what makes us human. 

It’s what makes us feel alive.
It’s what brings the deep connection.
 
It connects us with who we truly are.
 
It is not weakness – It is Strength
It is looked down upon – But it should be Cherished.
 
Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Not only around others, but even with yourself.
 
Cry when you need to.
See it as a releasing of the old to make room for the new.
Our bodies are filled with this energy. 
Let it out instead of 
storing it away.
 
There will be a flush of release throughout your body by doing so.
 
Be vulnerable around others. 
Choose wisely who deserves this part of you. 
It breaks down a wall that allows for more love, joy, and comfort to come in.
 
Everything is connected. 
We are meant to be connected to each other.
But we unknowingly refuse to feel it. 


Feel connected to those around you.
Let them see you at your lows.
Let them see you at your highs. 

You are meant to be around the people you are around. 

See yourself in these people and your actions toward them will soften and become more passionate.
 
We are all human. We all come from the same thing.
Be you.
It opens the ability for others to do the same.
 

Human Compassion

We are born into this world with decades worth of intelligence engrained in our cells.

We are perfect beings.

But I feel we see a newborn as small or innocent and assume this means they know nothing, therefore start imparting our wisdom thinking they have none.

We know a lot more than we realize even before birth.

 When we watch a young child interact with their world around them, we get that glimpse again of what life is supposed to be like.

A child is so filled with joy and compassion for everything around it. It understands and still sees the beauty in everything. Its ability to be present and see the aliveness of everything is effortless.

It’s when we grow up that we learn ( or are taught habits, and develop beliefs ) that actually contradict the natural instincts that we had when we came into this world.

From the moment we are born we naturally want to share. We know it makes us feel good to do so and we know by sharing we end up receiving in return.

We have forgotten what it feels like to give expecting nothing in return.

As we have evolved, somewhere along the line many of us started believing that giving leads to lacking.

Because if we give, we now have less, right?

This is where we have gone way wrong. Giving does not create a lack.

It creates space for more abundance.

Maybe we now have less material belongings, but we certainly gain from giving.

I’ve been learning a lot about giving lately and the importance of it and what we gain from it.

Detaching ourselves from these material items.

Detaching ourselves from the need to save and hoard money.

Letting go of this hold we have over our material things, and letting go of this feeling that giving away means we now will have less.

Lets rethink this…and remember as we knew when we were born…

Letting go reopens the energy flow.

We have cut off this natural flow of give and receive by believing giving leads to lack.

Which is why we continue to loose and feel a sense of lack. It’s not because our efforts aren’t enough. It’s not because we spend too much. It’s not because we don’t make enough, or weren’t born into it.

It’s because some of us have learned to hoard our belongings in the fear we will end up with nothing.

This belief itself is what creates the lack.

Any action taken from a place of fear does not produce good results.

When we start mindfully spending our money, when we remember to share the things we do have, that we start to remember what it feels like and what takes place after the act of giving.

We receive.

and we receive in abundance.

Let money and material things flow naturally and peacefully out of your life with the understanding and true belief it will come back to you in some way or form.

Because it will. Once we relearn.

We do not need anything to be happy.

Or successful.

Or beautiful.

Or to feel fulfilled.

We came into this world so full of love, happiness, beauty, fulfillment, and abundance….and we had ‘nothing’.

It’s not the items that make us who we are. We tend to hoard our belongings because we feel they are part of us, or make us who we are. Lets remember the items are just items. They freely come and go out of our lives. When we choose to let go of this need to hoard them and become comfortable in our skin without them, the items we need and are supposed to have in that moment will suddenly appear. And once they have served their purpose, they will leave, allowing room for new to come in.

Releasing attachment of this hold and fear returns us back to the same knowing and abundance we had when we first came into this world.

We knew how to share. And we knew this because it is what provides us with the effortless ability to feel joyous and alive.


To go along with this I’d like to talk a briefly about the ‘homelessness’ we are experiencing an increase of in our world today.

Every obstacle provides a lesson.

I feel we are missing the main point of this lesson.

What is the lesson it is trying to teach us?

To share.

Expecting nothing in return.

I have a few books in me about this topic which in the right time I might write, but I’m going to leave it here today.

I encourage you to take this new viewpoint. This new way of looking and try it out even just once. And see for yourself.

Give to someone. In a way that makes you feel joyous. And expect absolutely nothing in return.

And see it for yourself.

I’ve been doing this a lot lately. For me, after once, I don’t plan to stop.

Today in particular is what inspired me to write.

I was in town getting gifts for loved ones for Valentine’s day. I was done and getting back into my car when someone behind me asked if I had change to spare. My subconscious knew there was someone there, but I hadn’t taken the time to actually acknowledge their presence. Being the person I have chosen to become and wanting to create more authentic connections in my own life, I remembered I had just moved a handful of loose change from my cupholder to the hidden console wishing I didn’t have it anymore. I had also just bought two superfood bars ( Shanti Bars ), one was half eaten and I was already full. So along with this spare change, and my desire to give in a way that I feel good about ( sharing real whole foods), I gave him my other bar.

I gave, expecting nothing in return.

But I got abundance.

I got a smile full of gratitude on a face that was warm and friendly.

I got a conversation on a topic I had been pondering myself, and it brought immense relief as well as inspiration to continue on the desire I have.

I got more trust and faith in the caring we human beings have deep down for each other.

I got a feeling of deep peace.

I got authentic connection.

and really so much more.


We have gone through a lot of natural disasters in our world lately.

I personally had a close experience with one myself.

It brings a lot of sorrow and fear…but from it we also have been seeing so much giving from a place of expecting nothing in return.

I feel there is a lesson in this too. It is the same.

The world is trying to teach us.

Lets listen.

If this type of thinking and living is something you want in your life, contact me here and I will work with you so you can incorporate these practices into your life.

Lifes Guidance System

Resistance. Stress. Anxiety. Struggle. Anger. Sorrow. Frustration. Hurt. Worry.

These are our signs to stop – and pay attention.

Just like the stop signs we see every day while driving…. it, along with these emotions, are there for our protection.

They come from our intuition. That gut feeling we get, but usually don’t follow. Our intuition guides us to the path with least resistance. Aka…less struggle, more flow and joy.

So, I encourage you the next time you are trying to do something and for whatever reason it is just not happening at all and it is an incredible struggle to do what it is you are wanting to do…see it as your sign, and stop. Completely stop and either go do something else…or just sit. And wait. And watch.

Watch your mind go from crazy to more relaxed.

And watch the solution present itself. Sometimes right away. Sometimes later in the day or the following day.

Resistance of what is creates more resistance. The more we try and force something…the farther away we push it. Let go, and let it be. Even forget about it for awhile. This allows the energy from yourself and whatever it is you’re trying to do flow freely again and the solution will be able to fix itself with utter ease.

I feel we all kind of really wish there was an easy button for life or a written out step by step guide on how to live an incredibly fulfilled joyful life.

Well….there kind of is.

It’s our intuition.

It literally guides us moment by moment. Letting us know if we are going in the wrong direction or if what we are doing is aligned.

The only problem is we have gotten really good at ignoring it and instead, doing what we think we should be doing or what society tells us to do.

We’ve become stuck on ‘thinking’ instead of feeling.

Thinking usually leads us in the opposite direction. Feeling tells us exactly what we need to live joyously.

But wait!…it’s too vulnerable and feminine to feel.

No.

That’s society and your ‘thinking mind’ talking. It is actually extremely powerful to be able to understand the connection between feeling and doing. And those times you come across someone who has figured this completely out, they are actually kind of intimidating. Not in a threatened way, but in a wow, they seem to have a really good grasp on this living thing.

One day….this will be taught in schools. Maybe it does in some already.

I know statistics and complex chemical equations come into play in the lives of many…but understanding the basic foundation of how to live in the bodies we are in…and in a way that helps us thrive and live out life the best way possible….I feel that should come first.

Understanding we have a built in guide that lets us know the direction of most joy, most peace, most ease….man, I wish I would have known that earlier!

– Struggle becomes almost non-existent. ( Almost because everything has an opposite. We can’t have peace without chaos)

– Joy and ease of living become the normal way of being. Not just an occasional awesome day or anticipation build up for a vacation.

We have forgotten the importance of listening to our intuition. It’s been put on the back burner.

Let’s remember what it feels like to follow it. To follow the joy.

The joy that this life is really all about.