Surrender – Release – Let Go

Surrender into the feeling that everything happens just as it is supposed to. 

Walk tall into the moments of pain, hurt, and uncertainty. 
See them as perfect lessons, perfect stepping stones to get you where you want to go.


A common theme in my life the past couple weeks has been to surrender into these moments. To become less rigid and tense and trust the process.

It came up in a yoga class.

For those of you familiar with yoga – holding a position for a long period of time can bring about some serious mind chatter . . . ‘how much longer do I have to hold this, this hurts, I can’t do this.’ Well, this is one way to experience it. However, when you surrender into the moment instead, into the stretch and uncomfortable feeling you’ll find a state of pure bliss. 

Not just in yoga though. Anywhere. 

When something is uncomfortable or unfamiliar, surrender into that feeling and see it as a blessing. 
When I say surrender, for me that looks like and feels like an expansion of my mind. I am opening it up and allowing for a new something to take its place. ( for new space to be created, a new pathway to form ) 


It brings a whole different perspective to struggle and pain. 

And a whole new form of gratitude and peace. 

Instead of seeing these moments as unwanted, painful, or steps back, they could actually be the perfect preparation for a giant leap forward if we allow them to be – by simply surrendering. 
I do think it is also important to keep your well-earned and sturdy roots in place during this process as well. It is not always about letting go of everything you know. We got this far for a reason and we’ve been through enough lessons to know what we want to stand for and what we value.  Be open to other opinions about your sturdy roots, you never know you might need to upgrade them yourself at some point, but remember why you grew them in the first place as well.
Accept What Is   –  Let Go of What Was  –  Be Open to What is Coming Next.

A Day of Giving

I have recently decided to dramatically lessen the material things I own.

For a few reasons.

I have more than I need.

I plan to spend some time traveling and having less belongings will be easier to manage.

And less things to pack when I decide to live in different locations.

I’m working on only owning and buying things which have deep meaning to me instead of buying just to buy or out of whim. (Mindful – intentional spending.)

Creating space for growth. Physically and mentally.

If I haven’t worn certain clothes or used an item in a decent amount of time, or if it has been stored away somewhere in a box for longer than I can remember….there is someone else who could use it more than myself.

I spent some time thoroughly going through all my possessions and asking myself:

Is this something that brings me joy?

When was the last time I used it?

Does it align with the person I am wanting to be?

Will someone else appreciate it more than I am right now?

Some items were very easy to let go of. Others I looked at, had a deep sense of emotion come to the surface, and had to revisit another day. In the end, realizing the attachment I had to the item was not serving me in a positive way.

A huge part of what helped me be able to give, and in such a big way, was coming to the understanding everything in this life is energy.

Everything, including us, ebbs and flows in and out of our lives effortlessly when we are connected to nature and free flowing.

It is when we latch on to something that we disrupt this natural flow. It is when we store items in our possession, physically or mentally, that aren’t in alignment with ourselves, or out of fear, that we block natures ability to allow more and better things to come our way. When we hold on to items and emotions, we stop the flow of new things coming into our existence that are meant to, which help us continue to grow and evolve.

Let nature be our teacher again.
So much beauty is found in the act of letting go. Letting go of the old, makes room for something new.

When we give, we in turn allow ourselves room to receive.

You know the saying – you can’t give without receiving something yourself in return.

The return is a slew of positive emotions which can dramatically raise your vibration. In turn allowing you the ability to live in a state of flow and effortless ease.

Now doesn’t that sound nice.

I spent a full day giving away items that I no longer needed and it was an incredible day. I utilized an Unconditional Give or Take Group I found where I could offer my belongings directly to those in my area. Being able to directly give away your items to the exact person and to feel their appreciation and gratitude is such a wonderful feeling.

I have a handful more boxes I will be going through over the next couple months to have another day of giving.

My intention is to inspire you to do the same.

To start in a single room of your home and one by one, go through your belongings and make piles of what you no longer want. 

Let it be enjoyable.

Feel good about what you’re doing ( because it is amazing! ) and let the physical act of cleaning out your belongs also be cleaning to your mental state.

Creating physical space, also creates mental space.

And then find someone ( or many) who could use it more than you. 

This practice creates a clean and open space vibrationally for you to receive what life is trying to give you.

This world we live in is consistently responding to our wants and desires, but when we are blocked we block our ability to receive what we ask for.

Try letting go of emotional attachments you have to items.

If you haven’t used it in a awhile…do you really need it?

When you look at it or use it, do you feel good about it?

If not, if it brings up negative emotions, ask yourself if you still want to carry those emotions inside you. If so, or if you’re not ready, it’s okay to keep it. But if not, let it go – and the emotions will go with it allowing room for new and better ones to come in. Ones you can now intentionally choose.

May your coming days of giving be beautiful and a time of immense positive change in your life.

Towards a life of pure enjoyment and ease.

May you be happy. May you be healthy. May you be at peace. 

May your life flow with ease.

Vulnerability

It’s what makes us human. 

It’s what makes us feel alive.
It’s what brings the deep connection.
 
It connects us with who we truly are.
 
It is not weakness – It is Strength
It is looked down upon – But it should be Cherished.
 
Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Not only around others, but even with yourself.
 
Cry when you need to.
See it as a releasing of the old to make room for the new.
Our bodies are filled with this energy. 
Let it out instead of 
storing it away.
 
There will be a flush of release throughout your body by doing so.
 
Be vulnerable around others. 
Choose wisely who deserves this part of you. 
It breaks down a wall that allows for more love, joy, and comfort to come in.
 
Everything is connected. 
We are meant to be connected to each other.
But we unknowingly refuse to feel it. 


Feel connected to those around you.
Let them see you at your lows.
Let them see you at your highs. 

You are meant to be around the people you are around. 

See yourself in these people and your actions toward them will soften and become more passionate.
 
We are all human. We all come from the same thing.
Be you.
It opens the ability for others to do the same.
 

Are you Awake?

“Once we see the light, we can’t unsee it.

What once made sense no longer does.

Seeing new things will always require change, as the lessons seek to shift into our bones.

Many of us avoid the unfamiliar because we doubt we can hold it. We’ve been told for so long that we need a guidebook to tell us what to see. The American dream promises fulfillment while pouring concrete into our legs assuring that we feel as if we can’t stand anywhere but where they say.

We can pretend to build a happy home within the safety of the known, but it’s a facade. There is no promised safety. Just flow or resistance.

We either surrender to the present or we create anxiety, depression, and apathy.

Experiences deliver these lessons like a wheelbarrow of compost, delivering ingredients essential for growth. We can refuse to absorb it, but in doing so we choose a piece of life over the entirety.

We’ve been conditioned to feel weak, but our arms can hold more than we know. If it has arrived on our doorstep it is ours to meet, digest, wrestle with, consume, and then spit out what we no longer need.

Wherever you are, whatever you are doing, I hope that you take a moment to breathe in, soften your heart, remind yourself that you are capable, and lean into your lessons.

In each moment it is yours to choose:

Resistance or Flow”

Written by

Aubrey Renee

@aubreyyrenee

https://www.restoreretreatkentucky.com/


There is a tremendous amount of truth,

in and beyond these words.

Thank you Aubrey, for sharing such a beautiful part of your soul.

The journey you are on feels very similar to my own.

May our words reach many and continue to spread the message we both feel a calling to share.

We are here for the creative journey of experiencing joy and continuously expanding our minds into deeper levels of bliss.

If you are here reading this, your journey has begun.

Step into Growth

And know you will be supported every step of the way.

 

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If you would like to continue diving deeper into this question – ” Are you awake”  here is a podcast that goes into more detail describing some of the things that occur along this process of awakening. 

Podcast: Love Sex & Magic – Melissa Wells – Sept 16 – Are you Waking Up?

 

Lifes Guidance System

Resistance. Stress. Anxiety. Struggle. Anger. Sorrow. Frustration. Hurt. Worry.

These are our signs to stop – and pay attention.

Just like the stop signs we see every day while driving…. it, along with these emotions, are there for our protection.

They come from our intuition. That gut feeling we get, but usually don’t follow. Our intuition guides us to the path with least resistance. Aka…less struggle, more flow and joy.

So, I encourage you the next time you are trying to do something and for whatever reason it is just not happening at all and it is an incredible struggle to do what it is you are wanting to do…see it as your sign, and stop. Completely stop and either go do something else…or just sit. And wait. And watch.

Watch your mind go from crazy to more relaxed.

And watch the solution present itself. Sometimes right away. Sometimes later in the day or the following day.

Resistance of what is creates more resistance. The more we try and force something…the farther away we push it. Let go, and let it be. Even forget about it for awhile. This allows the energy from yourself and whatever it is you’re trying to do flow freely again and the solution will be able to fix itself with utter ease.

I feel we all kind of really wish there was an easy button for life or a written out step by step guide on how to live an incredibly fulfilled joyful life.

Well….there kind of is.

It’s our intuition.

It literally guides us moment by moment. Letting us know if we are going in the wrong direction or if what we are doing is aligned.

The only problem is we have gotten really good at ignoring it and instead, doing what we think we should be doing or what society tells us to do.

We’ve become stuck on ‘thinking’ instead of feeling.

Thinking usually leads us in the opposite direction. Feeling tells us exactly what we need to live joyously.

But wait!…it’s too vulnerable and feminine to feel.

No.

That’s society and your ‘thinking mind’ talking. It is actually extremely powerful to be able to understand the connection between feeling and doing. And those times you come across someone who has figured this completely out, they are actually kind of intimidating. Not in a threatened way, but in a wow, they seem to have a really good grasp on this living thing.

One day….this will be taught in schools. Maybe it does in some already.

I know statistics and complex chemical equations come into play in the lives of many…but understanding the basic foundation of how to live in the bodies we are in…and in a way that helps us thrive and live out life the best way possible….I feel that should come first.

Understanding we have a built in guide that lets us know the direction of most joy, most peace, most ease….man, I wish I would have known that earlier!

– Struggle becomes almost non-existent. ( Almost because everything has an opposite. We can’t have peace without chaos)

– Joy and ease of living become the normal way of being. Not just an occasional awesome day or anticipation build up for a vacation.

We have forgotten the importance of listening to our intuition. It’s been put on the back burner.

Let’s remember what it feels like to follow it. To follow the joy.

The joy that this life is really all about.

A Year of Transformation

The year of May 2017 to May 2018, I was guided through a transformation I will never forget.

Not so much in the way of changing who I am however….but in bringing back to life and remembering the joyous and full of life person I once was. The person I truly am; my authentic self. The one I had left behind in an attempt to fit in.

I have brought light back into all of the dreams I buried. I have spoken all of the thoughts I once felt I should hold back. I have cried all of the tears that needed crying. I have screamed the words that needed to be heard. I have felt the emotions I bundled up inside.  I laughed for all of the times that I had held back.

I have broken through so many of the barriers, boundaries, and limitations that I once put in place because of a world that told me I should.

And damn does it feel good!!!

I have always known I was different from those around me. My thoughts were a little more eccentric. My feelings were way deeper. My need for down time, alone time, and time to decompress was always very high. I could easily pick up on the feelings and emotions of those around me.

People would say I was dreaming too big, my thoughts weren’t realistic, and/or I needed to grow up.

I now find immense pride and joy in my uniqueness. And I know I am certainly not the only one who has grown up in a world feeling like we didn’t fit in.

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Here is my viewpoint on it these days as I now feel even more awakened than before.

Those of us who feel like the outcasts, who’s opinions get shut down, who’s wants and needs seem to always get confined into a little box that gets thrown away, who get overwhelmed and feel pressure coming at them in every direction…..

We are here to help change this world into a better place.

In order to do that, we need to think different, act different, and just be completely different from everyone else.

So of course we are going to catch hell for it!

But, I have noticed the more I realize this great gift…the more I welcome the criticism, the ‘no’s’, the ‘you can’ts’, the looks of disappointment or astonishment. They all just fuel my fire.

This past year has brought with it some intense inner work which brought some intense inner peace.

And from what I can tell…..the more true and authentic I become the more fun I have!!! It is important to grow up and be responsible yes, but it is even more important to not loose that inner child. The wild, crazy, adventurous piece of us that just wants to have fun.

 I attract better people into my life. Like-minded crazy individuals with so much passion and purpose. True deep meaningful connections that create wonderful memories.

Here are some of the changes I have made. This is just a short list as it would take me forever to write them all, but these are the biggest ones.

  • My mindset. I am grateful. I look for the positive. I believe anything I will ever need is already inside of me. It always has been, and always will be. Its just a matter of tapping into it. Our cells have the words of the universe imprinted in them. Our gut and intuition are what leads us.
  • My diet. I hate that word but there it is. If you don’t know me well enough yet, I discourage dieting ( as well as calorie counting ). There is no quick fix, it leaves us feeling deprived. Food is everything. We are what we eat. We are given one body, respecting it and understanding its limitations as well as its ability to thrive allows it to give us the best life possible.
  • My values & boundaries. I got really clear on what I value. What I want to value. And what I absolutely am not okay with.  And then I live accordingly. If something doesn’t match up with my value or pushes past a boundary. I speak up…. or I let go of it.
  • I make sure my words line up with my actions. If I say I am going to do something. I do it. If I don’t want to do something or know it is not in my best interest, I say no to it.
  • I have fine tuned my relationships. I have worked hard to eliminate negative influences in my life and increase positive ones. I choose friendships that are meaningful and authentic. Ones that inspire me and fuel me to continue to be and do my best.
  • Self care.  Oh how critical self care is. Especially for those of us who are Highly Sensitive People. ( no this does not mean I cry all the time and get upset over everything. However, it is important to learn and listen to and understand the subtle signs of our bodies ) Highly Sensitive People are able to feel more and pick up on energies and vibrations more than others. We embody these energies from people and everything around us and therefore need to have time to decompress and reground ourselves.

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This past year I have made more changes than ever. I have seen some incredible highs as well as some incredible lows. I have learned to listen to and trust my gut. I have learned to respect myself and demand respect from others. I have learned how to not only follow my dreams but how to make them reality.  I have reminded myself that we are here on this planet, in this universe, to simply have fun and to immensely enjoy the world around us. To help each other through our journeys. We all learn as we go. No reason to make it harder on each other.

If there is something we don’t like…we have complete control over changing it. Everything is a choice, staying somewhere we don’t like, doing something we don’t like….it’s all a choice. It takes change and struggle to get something different, yes, but it’s better than continuing on doing something that makes life even harder and more  difficult than it already is.

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One more awesome thing I have gotten out of this year of transformation…..

I know its just the beginning.

And there is so much more. So much more greatness, so many more amazing people, so many more wonderful authentic connections, so many more moments of realizations to come.

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My passion, my purpose, my goal is to help as many people as I can re-illuminate that light that is inside them.

If that is something you’re interested in….if a year of transformation is something you are looking for, if your gut is saying ‘yes this is me!’, ‘yes I relate!’….. now is the time to start thinking about making some changes to become more authentic to yourself.

To re illuminate the light that’s inside of you.

Now is the time in our world when we need to be doing this if we aren’t already. It is imperative that we make shifts and changes to re illuminate our world and bring it back into balance.

WE are the ones leading the way, and re creating the world in which we want to live in.

These kinds of transformations are best done with someone who has already been through the process themselves and can offer space, time, and lived knowledge as you work through it all yourself.

Contact me here to get started today.

May this next year be one of magnificent positive transformation.

A Storm Precedes a Waterfall

I was standing in my bathroom in front of my mirror wearing my extra large hoodie and braiding my hair before bed when this title…A Storm Always Precedes a Waterfall…..popped into my head.

Normally when I think about blog posts I think of a topic and then a title.

Well this one is different. Title first. Content After.

Kinda…

The title popped in my head because the content has been the last week or two of my life.  As I get older I am learning the ups and downs of my emotions. I am learning the patterns and I am actually taking comfort in them.

The ups and downs are what make us human.

Our lives are like the waves. Finding comfort in our ‘mistakes’ and seeing them as opportunities for growth, and finding perseverance in moments of sorrow brings a whole new meaning to living.  Everything is temporary. The longer we let ourselves stay down…the longer we stay there. As soon as we shift our mindset into realizing our current situation is not our final destination, and that we are fully capable of feeling much better, even right now, we change the vibration we are putting out into the world and we start attracting more thoughts, feelings, and opportunities that will change our circumstances. And we start to find that place of pure bliss.

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My main point is in times of sorrow, stress, depression, low self confidence ….. its important to remember that not only will it pass… it’s a foundation. Its a foundation that is helping you build up. It’s the sign that says:

‘Hey, something good is coming your way’

‘Something amazing is about to happen’

‘You’re going through a struggle so you can prove your capable/strong’

‘This struggle is changing your mindset in preparation for something you couldn’t have even dreamed of’

It is a sign that your purpose is strong and you’re being shifted into a place where you can handle and fully enjoy what is coming.

In order to change your circumstance, we have to change ourselves. We can not leave a situation with the same thinking and understanding as when we got there. If we do … nothing actually changed.

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In the times where we feel at our rock bottom…this is where the fire is started. The fire that lights you up with passion and purpose. It’s what helps us live that purpose. It is where motivation and determination comes from.

So I encourage you to take a different look and approach to your low moments. See them as a gift. See them as an opportunity to start fresh, get organized, rekindle a desire. See them as a message letting you know there is something wonderful waiting on the other side.

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So the next time you are having a bad day, week, month, or year. Remember this:

Everything in life is balanced. To experience immense joy, we must first learn what it feels like to experience immense pain.

Those moments of pain are your sign that something absolutely wonderful is heading your way.

Be kind to yourself. 

Open your heart.

Trust the process.

Accept where you are.

♥      ♥      ♥

A Storm Always Precedes a Waterfall

I was standing in my bathroom in front of my mirror wearing my extra large hoodie and braiding my hair before bed when this title…A Storm Always Precedes a Waterfall…..popped into my head.

Normally when I think about blog posts I think of a topic and then a title.

Well this one is different. Title first. Content After.

Kinda…

The title popped in my head because the content has been the last week or two of my life.  As I get older ( wiser I like to call it actually) I am learning the ups and downs of my emotions. I am learning the patterns and I am actually taking comfort in them.

The ups and downs are what make us human…so I guess I’m still alive 😉 And I am pretty happy about that.

Are lives are like roller coasters … all of us …. its easier to laugh at ourselves when we make mistakes and find humor in moments of total depression than let ourselves get completely encompassed in our not so good moments.  Everything is temporary. But the longer we let ourselves continue to feel down…the longer we stay there. As soon as we shift our thinking to realizing our current situation is not our final destination, and that we are fully capable of feeling much better, even right now, we change the vibration we are putting out into the world and we start attracting more thoughts, feelings, and opportunities that will change our circumstances. And we start to climb back up that roller coaster to a place of pure bliss.

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My main point that I would like to get across is in times of sorrow, stress, depression, low self confidence ….. its important to remember that not only is it temporary, it’s a foundation. Its a foundation that is helping you build up. It’s the sign that says:

‘Hey, something good is coming your way’

‘Something amazing is about to happen’

‘You’re going through a struggle so you can prove your capable/strong’

‘This struggle is changing your mindset in preparation for something you couldn’t have even dreamed of’

It is a sign that your purpose is strong and you’re being shifted into a place where you can handle and fully enjoy what is coming.

In order to change your circumstance, we have to change ourselves. We can not leave a situation with the same thinking and understanding as when we got there. If we do … nothing actually changed.

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In the times where we feel at our rock bottom…this is where the fire is started. The fire that lights you up with passion and purpose. It’s what helps us live that purpose. It is where motivation and determination comes from.

So I encourage you to take a different look and approach to your low moments. See them as a gift. See them as an opportunity to start fresh, get organized, rekindle a desire. See them as a message letting you know there is something wonderful waiting on the other side.

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So the next time you are having a bad day, week, month, or year. Remember this:

Everything in life is balanced. To experience immense joy, we must first learn what it feels like to experience immense pain.

Those moments of pain are your sign that something absolutely wonderful is heading your way.

Be kind to yourself. 

Open your heart.

Trust the process.

Accept where you are.

♥      ♥      ♥

All My Best,

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